Things to Consider Before Getting Divorced
Some psychologists and therapists believe that a divorce from one’s spouse is one of the top ten most stressful things that one can go through in the life. It is fair to say that a good deal of that stress can come from the fact that a divorce can mean that you will not be with your spouse again; a divorce can carry very real and consequential consequences into the future. With that in mind, there are some basic considerations which one can make before getting divorced – please keep in mind that this article is being written in the context of Louisiana family law and other states may have different requirements and regulations which govern divorce. If you are not in Louisiana, you should consult with a legal professional in your area.
One of the most common things which may cause conflicts between spouses in a divorce and which you may prepare yourself before a divorce is to whom the children should go. When a court awards custody or visitation to one parent or another or both, the court will likely consider a number of factors. If you are thinking about ending your marriage, it may be a good idea to reflect upon how a court award of custody or visitation may affect your ability to see them and to spend time with them and to support them going forward into the future.
Yet another big consideration which a spouse contemplating ending their marriage may engage in with their divorce lawyer is one regarding personal finances. In many marital arrangements, the spouses learn to depend on one another to a certain extent financial. This is of course natural as the spouses are working together as a team to promote their family. In other words, in some marriages the spouses are able to spend more money and live more lavishly because their personal is buttressed by the income or other earnings of their spouse. Projecting one’s future financial situation without the benefit of having another spouse’s additionally income is imperative before getting a divorce. While this is true of a relationship whereby the parties are not married yet living and relying upon each other, it is often the case that when parties are married they are significantly more reliant upon the other.
If you take only one single thing away from the information provided herein, hopefully it is that a plan should be thought of prior to deciding to end the marriage. This is a consequential decision that should not be taken lightly. One caveat: if there is a domestic violence, there is no time to think of such a plan and assistance should be obtained a soon as possible.
But, having said that, making the financial and familial decisions ahead of time hardly seems not to be something that is both in your, your spouse’s, and your family’s best interests. This is so because prior to engaging the court system, it is often easier and quicker if the former spouse’s understand and have a plan for how to move forward.